October 5, 2016

How We Wore It | Fall Sweaters and Negative Self-Talk

sweater, gap  |  pants, cotton:on  |  shoes, old navy
bag, fawn design  |  sunglasses, old navy
the purpose of this collaboration is to find a look that inspires you, then make it your own from what you already have. every item from this look I found in my closet from purchases past.

So, have I ever mentioned that I play on a slow-pitch softball team? No. I have not. Why? Because I have to force myself to get out of the house every week to play and use every ounce of will power I have to say "Yes, I'm coming" when the team captain asks.

It's not that I don't like to play. I grew up playing the sport, watching my big sis Debbie play in High School and then at BYU in college and loving it. What makes it so hard is the way I talk to myself when I play.

I met my team at the field a couple of months ago for our first game and I was feeling a little nervous. I hadn't thrown the ball in at least a year and hadn't hit a ball with a baseball bat in even longer. I wasn't even sure I remembered all the rules, plus they're all so different when you're playing recreational slow pitch.

By the time the game was over, I wasn't feeling all that great about myself. The image of a twiggy 12-year-old swinging wildly at a ball WAY out of reach came to mind every time I imagined what I must have looked like out there. I wanted to quit right then and there, but my parents taught me that quitters never win and winners never quit.

We really are our worst critics. We can talk ourselves down and really beat ourselves up about things, whether it's our performance, our image, or our parenting (mom guilt, anyone?)

So how do we combat this negative self-talk?

By thinking of someone else.

One thing my dad taught me when I performed (I was a singer back in the day) was that if I went into my performance with the intent to do well for myself, I would fail. If, however, I went into a performance with the intent to entertain and bring enjoyment to the audience, I would do well. I have found this to be true. Every. Single. Time.

So what did I do at my softball game last night when I missed the pop fly in right field and tried feebly to throw the ball to the first baseman? I thought to myself, "You're not going to help your team by beating yourself up. Focus, and work for your team." I might have totally spaced that I'm supposed to cover 2nd base when I'm the 2nd baseman, gotten pegged by the ball in the leg, and not made it home even once, but I stopped the negative self-talk and ended up having a pretty good time.

So! What does all that have to do with Fall Sweaters? Nothing really, but it's been on my mind and I didn't know what else to write about fall sweaters except that it's fun to dress up in a nice sweater and head out from time to time.

But to be honest, my favorite thing to do in a fall sweater, is pair it with some leggings and cuddle up on the couch with my kiddies with some popcorn while we watch a movie.

Or, ya know... sit in a chair and think deep thoughts while looking out the window...

for more photos from this session, click here.

Hang in there Ladies! We're halfway through the week and you're doing better than that negative self-talk is telling you. Visit these blogs for more fall-time fashion inspiration!

Deidre | Deidre Emme
Kyla | FordOlogy
Jessica | Flint Flair
 Autumn | Stay gold Autumn
Tessa | Tessa Marie
Aubrey | Aubrey Zaruba
Emilie | Burke Does
Madeline | Caseyland
Sierra | Sierra's View

Interested in signing up for the next HWWI? Click here! And a big thanks to Diary of a Debutante for being our inspired look!

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